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Improve your own storytelling technique

Improve your own storytelling technique

Here you will learn how to improve your storytelling technique to become better at small talk. This method comes from the book "The Fine Art of Small Talk".

📚 Understand the importance of small talk

Small talk is not just simple chit-chat, but an art that helps you build and maintain relationships. It is important that you understand the importance and value of small talk in order to improve your skills in this area. For example, small talk can help you make new friends, establish professional contacts, or simply have a pleasant conversation.

🧠 Learn to listen carefully

One of the key techniques to getting better at small talk is active listening. Try to really focus on what the other person is saying instead of thinking about what you are going to say next. For example, if someone is telling you about their last vacation, you might ask questions like, "How was the weather?" or "What was your favorite moment?"

👥 Practice the dialogue, not the monologue.

Good small talk is a dialogue, not a monologue. Try to keep the conversation balanced by both asking questions and contributing yourself. For example, if you ask someone about their work, you could also tell them about your own work.

😄 Show genuine interest

Show genuine interest in the other person and their stories. This will not only make the conversation more pleasant, but also strengthen your relationship with the person. For example, if someone tells you about their hobby, you could say "That sounds really interesting! How did you get into that?".

🎯 Learn to steer the conversation.

Another important skill is to steer the conversation in a pleasant direction. If you notice that the conversation is going in an unpleasant or boring direction, try to steer it to a more interesting topic. For example, if the conversation drifts to politics and you notice it's getting heated, you could say "Let's talk about something more pleasant. Have you seen a good movie recently?".

📝 Practice regularly

As with any skill, practice is the key to improvement. Take every opportunity to practice small talk, whether it's shopping, at a party, or at work. The more you practice, the better you'll get at it.

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